Job 16:1-2 Then Job replied: “I have heard many things like these; you are miserable comforters, all of you!”
There is something I’ve seen several times recently about a man saying that he and his wife avoid a lot of arguments by asking if the one talking wants comfort or solutions—wants just to be heard or wants potential action steps. I feel like this is a large part of the current issue with Job and his friends. Job seems to want comfort. He wants to be heard and understood. His friends have shifted fully into solution mode—here’s your problem. Here’s how to fix it. This mismatch of intentions does not go well.
Job 16:3 “Will your long-winded speeches never end? What ails you that you keep on arguing?”
Additionally, commentary says that one of the benefits of suffering is that it makes the sufferer more empathetic towards others who suffer, more willing to listen so that others feel heard, more willing to validate than to try to fix. I think all of this is coming into play here. Job wants to be heard. His friends want to help fix.
Job 16:4 “I also could speak like you, if you were in my place; I could make fine speeches against you and shake my head at you.”
Lord, Thank You for this day and this scripture. Thank You for a new level of understanding of the book of Job. Thank You that my suffering helps me to be more present and empathetic to those who are suffering. Help me to shine Your Light for all who need it. Draw me closer. Amen.
Job 16:5 “But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief.”
Have a blessed day.